Dear Scottward..

Dear Scottward,

I need some advice. When women come over it is hard for me to get the conversation rolling and break the ice. We just sort of end up just sitting there watching a movie. It just gets pretty boring after a while. It’s not that I am not interesting; it is just hard to get the conversation flowing smoothly.

Thanks,

Quietly Watching

Dear Quietly Watching,

Long gone are the days of popping in a DVD and half way through the intro making your move (ahh the good ole' days). Women want to be stimulated in their minds before they are in their bodies .Also there seems to be a real bad trend going on, women want to talk and get to know you before they sleep with you!!

The thing you must remember is that when women come over they want to feel comfortable. So always have your place neat, smelling good and at a comfortable temperature. Remember if she doesn't take off her shoes, she isn't going to take off her pants (if you're lucky she will put back on her shoes). I say this to say, if she feels at home and relaxed being around you it is a definite plus. So you have to have interaction between the two of you (and I do not recommend asking her to play Madden with you).

Here are two great solutions. First, a must have for any gentlemen- "The Book of Questions" by Gregory Stock. It comes in two versions. The regular version has some pretty deep questions about life, morality, and challenges. The second one is about "Love & Sex". Each Book contains about 250 questions so it makes for a long, stimulating conversation. It is a great way for you to learn a little bit about each other. The "Love & Sex" edition is a great way to gauge her level of freakiness as well.